I have learned some great lessons at Wal-Mart and Costco. One day while pulling in the parking lot of Costco, I was cut off by a man driving an SUV and yelling foul expletives at me, even though I had the right of way. I raged in my car, I had a few choice thoughts about that guy I have to admit. I wanted to confront him and tell him off. It’s the Irish in me. I thought what would my Savior do? He would go up and apologize to the man; He would take the blame and tell the man he was sorry. What a different outcome than the outcome my rage would have ensued. I have taken that on as my new attitude. If that happens again I will react with love and concern rather than rage and vindictiveness. My Savior expects that of me and I expect it of myself.
I was in Wal-Mart on busy Saturday evening when at the check-out I got a call from back home that a family member was eating dinner and became unconscious and they were on route to the hospital. At that moment I started to shake, and all I could think about was getting to my car and listen to the whole story. I paid for my purchase and as I tried to get my cart out of the busy double line it got stuck on a handle to a Pepsi case. This woman turned to me and snapped at me” If you would get off your blankety, blank phone and pay attention that wouldn’t of happened.” I was just shocked. Here I was so devastated to hear about my family, and this woman who was not being inconvenienced at all by my mishap was yelling and judging me. I thought, she doesn’t know what I am going through, she doesn’t know I am in the middle of a crisis. Yet she judges me.
It taught me a great lesson. I will have the utmost patience with people from now on, ‘cause I don’t know if they are stressed, or ill, or just lost someone. They may be going through devastating times and that is why they cut me off, or treated me badly or whatever. I cannot change another’s behavior, what I can change is how I react to it. I can love and understand, even if the person is just ignorant, it is not my job to judge. I do not walk in their shoes and so I can’t compare or judge what they do, but I can judge what I do.